Hello Everyone. I am excited to say that I have a guest contributor to Mr. Rodge’s Neighborhood. This writer shares their various personal and professional experiences to provide down to earth, practical insights into our daily lives. Please welcome Sam Choi of Simple Wisdom Web and Blog.
Now, besides cooking, there was a few things I learned during my times as a chef in a 2 Michelin Starred restaurant.
Some Back Story
Before people jump to conclusions, I was never considered an exceptionally gifted child. I had some talent in writing and drawing, but what child didn’t? And I never really harvested that talent, and so by the time I was in the fifth grade, my reading comprehension level was two years behind, at the 3rd grade level.
However, later on in life, I got tired of being considered average, and so I pushed myself. I put myself in situations that were uncomfortable, because I knew that I would grow. To give you an example of my somewhat obsession, one of the times I was homeless(and there have been several), I became homeless on purpose because I thought there was something to learn there, and I was right.
And if there was any overarching theme in my life, it would be that growth comes from experience, and you do not have to wait for life to give them to you. As we get older, our focus becomes more narrow, and we start to worry more. We focus on our careers, and we worry about retirement or rent. We lose sight of something much more important than financial security.
We forget to be better people. And that doesn’t only mean being smart or “intelligent”, it also includes our morals, ethics, and principals. How do we become more grateful? How do we become happier, and how can we spread that happiness? The genre of self-improvement has a narrow scope of being more productive or more active. A lot of the material out there tries to motivate you to be more successful and sexier, which is great, but what about our morals?
I think we should focus on our inner state of mind, as much as we focus on our outwardly success. But I don’t want to preach that right now either. Back to what I learned from being a chef.
If you lift weights, this idea will come easy for you as well. When I was a chef, everything was about repetition. I have probably cut 100,000 mushrooms, peas, tomatoes, and scallops. I have probably cooked the same 3-5 dishes over 1000 times each. And what I have learned is, that is mastery. If you want to truly master something, get closer to a goal, it’s all about repetition. Arnold Schwarzenegger thought the same thing when he was a bodybuilding champion. For him, every rep was a step closer to his goals. Getting better slowly, but surely getting better.
But just blindly repeating something is not enough. You also have to reflect. Every time I cooked a dish, I looked back, and saw what I could do better the next time I cooked the same dish. Perhaps the flame was too low, and I could save some time at a higher heat, or the dish tasted to salty, and so I should put less salt next time. You have to reflect and see what you can improve on every time. And then, the final and most important step is to actually make the change.
So if there is something you want to learn or improve upon, however you practice the skill, habit, or craft, remember: it’s all about repetition. And who cares if it takes you longer than a week to master a skill? Too many people overestimate what they can do in a week, and underestimate what they can accomplish in a year. Give yourself some time, you deserve it.
Here’s an outline
- Find your path
- Get closer to mastery through repetition.
- And reflect every step of the way.
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Do you desire to better yourself or situation? It all starts with YOU. YOU must believe in yourself. YOU have to believe what you are doing is going to work. YOU have to believe opportunities will arise that are FOR YOU. Trying to better yourself or situation is never easy. It always requires leaving our comfort zone. It involves the risk of failure. What follows are 3 strategies we can use to ensure we have the proper mindset needed to stay on that sometimes rocky, but rewarding, path of self-improvement.
- Believe In YOU. First and foremost, you have to believe that what you are doing is going result in success in some form or fashion. You can’t rely on others to always spur you into action. It is great to have a support system, but it is meaningless if you don’t believe in yourself. Others can encourage, but you have to act. Everything starts and ends with you!
- Tune out the Noise. Many will not understand. Some will flatly say you can’t do it. Some will think you are crazy. Some will ask why would you want to make yourself so much trouble, why not just go with the status quo? Get used to it. You are going against the grain. It is pretty likely that the majority of people are not doing what you are trying to do, whether it’s starting a business, improving your health, growing spiritually, etc. It’s only natural that they may not throw their full support behind you. Expect it & accept it.
- Keep an Open Mind. Do your research. Continue to learn about the area you are seeking to improve upon. We are in an age where we have an ability to access limitless information at our fingertips. There are usually several ways to accomplish a particular goal and, through your own research and observation, you may find your own way of doing it that works well for your situation.
Empower yourself by realizing you can make your goals a reality!
I once heard a motivational speaker say, “You are going to fail your way to success.” Kind of intimidating if you think about it, right? Hearing that might discourage some from even trying to chase their dreams. However, if your mind isn’t conditioned to deal with disappointment to some degree, then it probably is not ready for the amount of trial and error needed to become successful. The reality is failure is not enjoyable, under any circumstances. Failure can be a great teacher, but experiencing it just plain sucks! We need to be able to minimize our fear of failure when chasing our goals and dreams.
The process of achieving success is filled with numerous challenges. It is easy to have a dream. Making it happen is a different story. Simply wanting is not enough. EVERYONE WANTS! What are you willing to do to get what you want? What are you willing to devote or give up in order to chase your goals or dreams? We must focus more on our process/plan toward our dreams as opposed to the dream itself. We must use the progress we make in our process as motivation. Progress indicates positive, consistent actions toward an expectation or goal. We have a much greater likelihood of sticking with our goals if we are focused more on the consistent actions to reach a goal. Consistency in our actions leads to growing confidence, which strengthens our resolve in progressing toward our goals. To be successful, we must consistently make progress. Success doesn’t happen overnight; it takes time. There will be trial and error along with disappointments. The road may have detours and delays, but you can reach your destination. Achieving success is a process and not an event!
I was watching a video of motivational speaker Les Brown and he instructed the audience to say “Good things are supposed to happen to me.” He recommended that the audience say this to themselves daily. Brown then went on to say we tend to expect bad things to happen to us, so we need to affirm the positive. Affirmations are designed to change our subconscious thoughts by constantly referring to them in our conscious minds. Our subconscious impacts us in ways we are unaware of. We tend to have thought patterns and experiences in our past which, if we are not aware, can undermine our conscious efforts to do better in the present.
So what happens when we start to internalize the message that “good things are supposed to happen to me?” Does that mean everything we pursue will happen? Of course not! Does it mean that you won’t be disappointed? Absolutely not! This message is rooted in your faith in a higher power (God) and yourself. People who believe good things will happen for them will start to become more perceptive of opportunities. They will tend to attract those good people who genuinely can help them.
There is a flip side to this type of thinking. If you truly believe good things are supposed to happen for you, then you will believe that if something doesn’t happen, it just wasn’t a good thing. I’ll keep it real with you, sometimes this is a hard pill to swallow if you are in a desperate situation or have tried repeatedly at something. It’s ok to feel disappointment, but we can’t let it keep us down. In this day and age, we have many opportunities to overcome our circumstances and do well. It can happen when we exude a faithful, positive mindset, with efforts to match.
The beginning of September signals the start of one of our country’s favorite past times ….football season! Over the years, I have seen how sports provides such great analogies for life in general. Just like the start of a sports season, our lives can be broken down into seasons. There are many lessons that can be learned in equating the start of the football season to the various seasons and cycles in our lives.
- Importance of preparation. Every team has prepared by learning and training during the offseason. Each team has spent many hours doing conditioning and learning plays. A lack of preparation will definitely insure that the team will be unsuccessful. Same with us on an individual level. We cannot take advantage of an opportunity if we are unprepared mentally, physically, emotionally, etc. We must commit ourselves to learning and improvement.
- Losing (disappointment). Most teams will lose at least once. It is rare that a team makes it through a season undefeated. A few years ago, the New York Giants won the Super Bowl having lost half of their regular season games. In life, we will suffer disappointments, but the good news is that, like the New York Giants, we do not need to be close to perfect to succeed at our goals. More importantly, we must develop the mental stamina to deal with those disappointments which may arise.
- Injuries (unexpected challenges). Teams will have key players that get injured. Those teams that have good systems in place always seem to suffer less of an impact when this happens. This definitely relates to preparation and foresight. Disclaimer: There are things that happen to us, just like an injury to a key player on a team, which can derail a whole season. We want to focus on things within our circle of control. This is where preparation helps.
- One Game at a Time (the process). A team must focus on winning the game at hand, not the game that is 3 weeks from now or the championship. Winning the game at hand puts the team closer to its goal of making the playoffs or winning a title. Same with us on an individual level. We must focus on the steps to accomplishing our goal as opposed to the actual goal itself. Mastering the steps will naturally result in accomplishing the goal.
Good luck this season!
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We are all seeking to be successful at something, whether it be our work, health, relationships, or finances, to name a few. Accomplishing our goals requires a certain mindset. I have observed the following qualities in those who have achieved success:
- Vision: Having a vision means identifying your purpose and understanding your ability to achieve the goal. A vision sets the foundation for creating a plan to achieve your goal. Your vision can always be referred back during the challenging moments that undoubtedly arise in pursuit of your goals to keep yourself on track. Once you have a vision and plan in place, you will need…..
- Discipline: Discipline equals commitment. Being committed will allow you to stay true to your vision and plan. This commitment will encourage you to tune out negative self-talk and naysayers (haters). On the flip side of that, discipline also allows you to at least hear people out; you never know where your insights may come from. Something else to consider is that when you are trying to do great things, a lot of times you are going against the grain, so to speak. For example, let’s say you are looking to start a business. The majority of people are not business owners, so it may hard for you to find people to relate to what you are trying to accomplish. People may be critical or unsupportive, which can be discouraging. Accomplishing your goals is also a lengthy process. This is where your discipline comes into play.
- Effort: It is going to take work. There may be a lot of trial and error involved. There will be some sacrifices involved. You will definitely devote a lot of mental and physical energy to reach your goal. Efforts must be consistent. Take weight loss for example. The person who is seeking to lose weight is far more likely to be successful if they exercise 5 days a week for one hour compared to 1 day a week for 5 hours. Consistent efforts will bring progress and/or may reveal how your plans need to be adjusted.
- Positivity: You must have a positive attitude. Let’s face it, sometimes it is hard to be positive in the face of disappointments. There is always the potential for things to go wrong. However, a positive attitude will attract the energy and people you need to achieve your goals. You must believe that there will be positive results from all your efforts. You have to believe that what you are doing is going to work in the long run.
Thank you for reading. I wish you the best in your pursuits!